Abortion: Nature or Nurture?

The Numbers

 Here are some approximate numbers related to human reproduction.

Women

• 1 million - The number of eggs a woman is born with.
• 400,000 - The number of eggs left by the time she reaches puberty.
• 400 - The number of eggs released for ovulation over her lifetime.
• 6 - The average number of eggs that get fertilized.
• 3 - The average number of eggs that become a person.

Nature vs. Women

• 99.9% of unfertilized eggs are discarded or reabsorbed (from the time of puberty).
• 50% of fertilized eggs (embryos) are lost (most before the woman knows she's pregnant).
• 10-20% of known pregnancies end in miscarriage.

Men

• Over 500 billion - The number of sperm each man produces in his lifetime.
• 8,700 - Number of ejaculations in his lifetime (Link).
• 80 - 300 million - The number of sperm per ejaculation.
• 6 billion - The approximate number of sperm it takes to make a baby (78 ejaculations).
• 3 - The average number of a man's sperm that become a person.

Nature vs. Man

• 99.99999998% of sperm that are sent on a life-making mission end up dead.

Women vs. Nature

• 360 - The number of eggs not fertilized due to birth control.
• 20% of pregnancies are aborted by the woman's choice (1-3% due to advice from a doctor).

Man vs. Nature

• 99% of sperm are wasted, not making a baby (due to birth control or masturbation)
• Man friendly calculation. Only 8,622 sperm are wasted since only one sperm would is prevented from doing it's job, the rest would have been wasted anyways. That's only 0.0000017% wasted.

Conclusion

• Nature wastes more eggs than women do by a ratio of 1,000-to-1 (I'll admit that this is a lame statistic since so many of these eggs never had a chance).
• Nature aborts more embryos than women do by a ratio of 2.5-to-1.
• Man wastes more sperm than nature by a ratio of 25-to-1
• Calculation: Only 3 sperm are needed to make his 3 babies, so nature wastes 3 x 6 = 18 billion. The rest of his 500 billion sperm, or 500 - 18 = 482 billion, are wasted by the man.

Bonus Material

Other parties that try to have a say in the nature vs nurture battle.

• 1-3% of abortions were recommended by doctors for the woman's health.
• 12 states have total abortion bans.
• Female legislators are significantly underrepresented (~22%) in states with total abortion bans.
• 21 states protect abortion.
• Women make up about 40% of the legislature in states with abortion protection.
• Abortion Opinions
• 8-13% of Americans are against abortion in any circumstance.
• 36% of Americans are against abortion in most circumstances.
• Most opposition to abortion is due to religious beliefs.
• Birth Control Opinions
• 9-11% of Americans are opposed to birth control.
• Most opposition to birth control is due to religious beliefs.
• Wasted sperm is a sin like abortion, according to the Catholic and other conservative Christian churches.
• Bloggers write about abortion when they don't have the expertise (hey, that hurt!).

Spending or Revenue Problem

 Imagine two people. Friends of yours. Maybe a family member.

The first person has maxed out all of their credit cards. They don’t have an extravagant lifestyle. They have a modest car and apartment. But they did opt for two bedrooms for when friends or family come to visit. The rent is higher, and with their car payment, they have to use the credit card to make ends meet. And it’s not like they went crazy with their card. I mean, when their best friend has a destination wedding, they had to go and their only choice was to put it on the card. And they had to go to that concert! Their favorite artist NEVER comes to town and they saved thousands of dollars by not having travel expenses. Every charge can be justified: the gym membership, Netflix, Uber Eats (they were too sick to make anything), Starbucks, the latest iPhone (they broke their old phone in a freak accident), etc.

Question: Would you say they had a spending problem or revenue problem?

The second person doesn’t even have a credit card. Well, they have one, but only for emergencies. They live in a basement apartment, if you can call it that. It’s more like a bathroom with a bed in it. They get around on a used bike they fixed up and public transportation. They make their own food; mostly dishes with rice, beans, or potatoes. If they’re in a hurry, they’ll splurge with Top Ramen, though they bought it in bulk and got a good deal because it was expired. They have a very old phone that is embarrassingly slow.

Question: Does this person have a spending problem or a revenue problem?

Now, you have the opportunity to give $100 per month extra, divided however you deem fair. Who will benefit from the $100 extra the most? The first person is living with a deficit, surely they need it most?

While both people have a revenue problem, the spending problem of the first person concerns you that the extra money may not help. I would argue that the spending problem needs to be addressed before they get help with the revenue.

Solving a Mystery

The maid moves from dusting the furniture to cleaning the windows, and briefly focuses beyond the smudges on the window. She screams when she sees the body of her employer, John Bywater, floating face down in the backyard pool. Inspectors Rectus and Sumere are called to the scene.

Sumere: What an unfortunate accident! 

Rectus: We can't assume it was an accident. 

Sumere: There's an empty bottle of alcohol by his towel. Clearly, he was drunk and passed out, drowning.

Rectus: The maid said Mr. Bywater swam laps every morning. There is no glass, and the empty bottle has no lip marks. Actually, the empty bottle has no residue inside. She did say she heard an argument earlier, and when she looked outside, she saw the neighbor, Mr. Adstat, pointing his finger at the deceased with a threatening look on his face.

Sumere: So, Mr. Bywater was murdered by Mr. Adstat!

Rectus: We can't know that. I spoke with Mr. Adstat, and he was very shocked and upset to find out about the death. He was angry because Mr. Bywater was supposed to invest his money, but never got the confirmation. The result was Mr. Adstat missing out on an opportunity to make a lot of money.

Sumere: It must be a family member then.

Rectus: Mr. Bywater has no family. He's an only child, a bachelor, and both of his parents have passed away. We need to speak with his business partner, Paul Avara, who was recently accused of embezzling from their firm's brokerage account. Mr. Bywater was going to testify before a grand jury today.

Sumere: Then Paul Avara must be the murderer!

Rectus: Apparently, Mr. Bywater was going to testify that his partner was innocent. It wouldn't make sense for Paul to kill him.

Sumere: Well, we need a suspect to solve this crime. I'm going to find as much dirt as I can on Mr. Avara. If he's going before a grand jury, there has to be something.

Rectus [Rolling his eyes]: I think that's a dead end. I'm going to investigate some other leads.

-- Later --

Rectus: I found some useful information.

Sumere: So did I! Paul Avara has quite a past. He has been divorced several times and has a sizable alimony burden. He has a DUI that he's still fighting. His uncle is currently serving time for money laundering. Apparently, Paul worked with his uncle before joining up with Bywater. The empty alcohol bottle was for a label that Paul was trying to bring into their investment portfolio. So, Paul was in the backyard, by the pool.

Rectus: None of that matters.

Sumere: What do you mean! Paul Avara is a scumbug who deserves to be punished!

Rectus: Sounds like he's already being punished. 

Sumere: Why did you say "none of that matters?"

Rectus: The maid said the bottle had been out by the pool for several days. Paul brought it over when they were having a business meeting. But that doesn't even matter. The autopsy showed that Bywater suffered a heart attack when he was swimming laps. 

Sumere: No, no, that was no accident. I'm sure Paul gave him something. He caused the heart attack. I'm sure of it. 

Rectus: We found security footage that shows Bywater grabbing his chest, flailing in the water, and then just stopping.

Sumere: That sounds awful! All the more reason for Avara to pay for it!

Rectus: The coroner said the toxicology report showed nothing. Bywater had preexisting conditions, became dehydrated, and had an electrolyte imbalance.

Sumere: I bet Avara knew about the preexisting conditions. He just needed to push him over the edge.

Rectus: How could Avara cause an electrolyte imbalance? That is caused by not taking something.

Sumere: I'm sure there are ways. We just need to find them.

 

No Loss, No Gloss

We've all heard the saying, "No pain, no gain." I would like to introduce a new saying:

No Loss, No Gloss

When I first tell people this, I can always count on a look of confusion on their faces. Let's break it down.

Think of a polished stone. It's shiny, beautiful. But it didn't emerge from nature that way. It started as a rough stone with jagged edges, most likely broken from a larger stone. It ended up in a stream or river and was repeatedly pounded by and against other rocks in the current. One by one, each jagged edge was broken off, resulting in a smoother and rounder surface. Then it was immersed in sand, and the shifting currents over seasons refined the surface.

What did it take to turn an ugly stone into a refined river rock? Loss. Loss of all of the rough edges.

What do you need to lose to improve your gloss?

"I don't need to lose anything! I can simply add a layer of cement or epoxy to the surface to become smooth. I can just cover my rough surface." 

But these facades will chip and fade over time. The smooth surface needs to be continuous to the core. So I ask again:

What do you need to lose to improve your gloss?

- Maybe it's a small yet annoying habit. 

- Maybe it's baggage you've been carrying around since childhood. 

- Maybe it's an outdated way of thinking about the world.  

You know best. You're loved ones also know too, if you dare ask them.

Sometimes we focus too much on "what more do I need?" and not enough on "what do I need to lose?"

No Loss, No Gloss

Everything is a Red Herring

Everything is a red herring...almost. A red herring is most likely a true statement, but it distracts from what's truly important. Here are some examples:

Federal Deficit and Debt

The out-of-control Federal spending is leading us to a fiscal crisis. I recently posted about D.O.G.E in response to red herrings related to the department. These red herrings point to specific examples of cuts that will cause harm. Still, none of them address the real problem: the interest payments on our debt are already more than our defense spending, which will soon be our country's biggest expense item, surpassing both Social Security and Healthcare spending. I've written about this for over 15 years here, here, here, and here.

Cyberwarfare and Political Polarization

We are under attack. Cyberwarfare is conducted against the U.S. by Russia, China, Iran, North Korea, and others. These attacks are well documented in "This Is How They Tell Me The World Ends: The cyber weapons arm race" by Nicole Perlroth, and "Sandworm" by Andy Greenberg. Our enemies' goal is to create chaos in the U.S., and they are succeeding. I've written about the polarization in the U.S.  here and here. Most of the political polarization is just intentionally induced red herrings.

Environmental Sustainability

The discussions around Global Warming or "Anthropogenic Climate Change" have resulted in a red herring food fight. The problem is that the activists are blatantly manipulative, causing the skeptics to reject any scientific basis. I've participated in this here, here, here, here, and here. I recommend you read this one: Global Warming: Here's a better story.

The real problem is governmental policies that depend on and drive growth. Our Earth can't sustain unlimited growth, and for 99.9999% of us, there's nowhere else to go. For additional insights, read "Prosperity without Growth" by Tim Jackson and "Doughnut Economics" by Kate Raworth.

From ChatGPT:

🔵 Red Herrings from Climate Change Advocates

1. "The world will end in X years"
   → Overstating urgency with doomsday timelines can discredit valid concerns and scientific models.
   Red herring: Shifts focus from actionable mitigation to fear-based speculation.

2. "Anyone who questions anything is a denier"
   → Not all critiques are denial; some are about policy, economics, or priorities.
   Red herring: Avoids engaging with legitimate nuances.

3. "It's all the fault of big oil"
   → While fossil fuel companies play a major role, blaming them exclusively avoids discussing individual or governmental responsibility.
   Red herring: Oversimplifies a complex, systemic issue.

4. "We must act now, regardless of cost"
   → Urgency is real, but ignoring economic trade-offs can alienate support.
   Red herring: Sidesteps cost-benefit or equity discussions.

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🔴 Red Herrings from Climate Change Skeptics

1. "The climate has always changed"
   → True, but irrelevant to the current rate, causes, and human contributions.
   Red herring: Distracts from the core issue of anthropogenic climate change.

2. "It was really cold last week"
   → Weather ≠ climate.
   Red herring: Uses short-term data to undermine long-term trends.

3. "Scientists used to warn about global cooling"
   → A fringe hypothesis in the 1970s, not a serious consensus.
   Red herring: Undermines current science by misrepresenting past uncertainty.

4. "Environmentalists are hypocrites who fly in jets"
   → Even if true, it doesn't disprove the reality of climate change.
   Red herring: Attacks the messenger, not the message.

Nonviolent Eating: Relax Your Eating for Better Health

TL/DR;

• I used the Dexcom Stelo "Continuous Glucose Monitor" or CGM.
• I confirmed the same lessons from previous experiment. My Experiment Results
• Foods high with grains or processed sugars cause blood glucose levels to rise
• Walking after eating helped to bring levels into acceptable ranges
• Stress can cause levels to rise more (even with identical foods).
• New insight:
• Nonviolent eating (I made this term up), or mindful eating in a relaxed, non-rushed manner can help reduce blood glucose spikes

Six years ago I did an experiment with taking periodic blood glucose  measurements after eating. It took hundreds of finger pricks.

Luckily, Dexcom now has a non-prescription, over-the-counter, continuous blood glucose monitor which provides readings every 5 minutes. I won't review all of the data because it basically confirmed what I discovered with my previous experiment.

Tuxedo Cake

The first surprise was on Memorial Day (May 26, 2025). We had my daughter and her family over. It was a relaxing, enjoyable day with swimming and ping-pong. At 12:45 PM, we had hamburgers, watermelon, etc. Then at 2:52 PM, we broke out the Tuxedo Cake from Costco. I ate a slice, then another, and then had a few more smaller pieces. I thought to myself, "This is really going to spike my blood sugar!"

Costco Tuxedo Cake

I went back to playing ping-pong with my grandson and then checked my levels later in the Stelo app. The green circle in the image marks the time when I ate the cake. My blood sugar never spiked (highest was 118 mg/dL an hour later). I figured it was being active (playing ping-pong) that kept it low. 

Blood Glucose After Eating Tuxedo Cake

Oatmeal

These next measurements were for times I ate oatmeal for breakfast. The only thing I add is raisins, roasted almonds, and sea salt. The captions describe the differences for three days.

Instant Oatmeal

Whole Oats, Walk after

Relaxed Eating (Whole Oats, no walk)

The second measurement I went on a walk just as it was spiking, bringing down my levels. The last measurement (June 5, 2025), I decided to actually take a break to focus on eating. I put on music from a relaxing playlist and I didn't do any work. 

I only discovered this relaxed eating the last few days that I had left on the sensor, but I applied the approach at every meal with noticeable reductions in blood glucose levels.

Nonviolent Eating

The way I think of it is as a hunter-gatherer out on the savanna. You're picking nuts and berries and eating as you go. You are very alert to any dangers, so you throw the food quickly in your mouth and munch it down quickly. You're telling your body "hey, I may need this to run away from a lion, so convert it to ready energy." This is "violent" eating, because you are in fear of violence while eating.

You bring some of the food back to your dwelling and the hunters just got back with a kill. You all sit, relaxed in the safety of your group and eat a relaxing meal. This is "nonviolent" eating, since you are not in fear of violence while eating. 

The goal is to create a mindful situation for your eating, where you aren't binging or rushing. You calm your mind and focus only on eating. You aren't thinking ahead to the next task or problem.

Stuck in Traffic: A Chance Encounter in the Second Dimension of Time

Yesterday I drove an hour away to my cousin's funeral. This post is about my drive home and its connection to my previous post on the Four Dimensions of Time.

The second dimension relates to the cumulative time spent with each person, object, or action on our main journey through the first dimension of time. The more time we spend, the deeper our relationship can become, the more adept we can be at a skill, and so on.

There were two accidents on my way home, which turned a one-hour drive into a three-hour drive. Luckily, I was in my new EV, which can be a very relaxing experience if you aren't in a rush to get somewhere. I had plenty of content on my phone to listen to. At first, I felt myself get angry at the people passing on the shoulder or sneaking into the merging lane to get ahead. But I reminded myself that I didn't need to hurry. 

At the first accident, I happened to glance over at a young woman sitting on the ground, leaning against the white cement barrier. She was being attended to by an emergency medical technician (EMT). I only saw her for a second or two. In the second dimension of time, she is insignificant.

Later that night, as I lay pondering the day, I thought about how much of an inconvenience the accident had been for her. For me, it made me slow down. For her, whatever she had planned for the day was interrupted. She may have a lasting impact from any injuries she might have sustained.

We never know how a brief encounter with a stranger may impact them. Not that we have any responsibility to make an impact. We play a bigger role in life than we can ever realize.